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The Move In.

In my previous post I talked about "5 Things They Don't Tell You About Moving In Together." I wanted to take a step further in today's post to tell you a more detailed account of things I did and have noticed about the days following the move in with my ex (almost) husband.

When we were dating and before we got married my ex (almost) husband was all about getting married after we graduated college and started a career. He was in school to become a physical therapist and it would have taken more than 5 years to complete all the schooling, etc. that he needed to start a career.

... then less than 6 months later we found out that I was pregnant with my now 3 year old... and he proposed. THIS was a red flag for my parents... why I did not listen? I don't know.

I honestly don't even remember them saying anything about it.

Other before we were married things I knew but never addressed... I knew he was a cheater. I found videos, images, text messages, etc. on his p…

The Short Version


This is the short version of a long story and the more you follow me, the more you will learn...

I have been through a divorce with a sexual predator who plead guilty in court, but continues to plead not guilty with me. The answers unfortunatly are not all there, so I can't answer everything... but I can give my side of the story.

In July of 2014 I got a phone call from my now ex husband that he was being accused of sexual actions against some younger family members. That was all we knew. Of course he told me it wasn't true, multiple family members in his family told me it was 100% without a doubt not true. I believed them. AND then I got married in August, three days after I had our daughter.

Little did we know that he would in fact be called down to the detectives office and questioned. After this he came home and told me that the detective said the stories were changing with one of the girls and that the other two sounded rehearsed. And that there was not enough evidence to make a case. So I was assured that everything would be okay.

In October that year I received a phone call from his boss, who was also a member of the church we attended and a good friend of ours, that he had been taken into custody. I'll tell more on that story later. At the time I was at work, babysitting for a military family and holding my 3 month old daughter. I was in shock. I called my mom and she said "where are the kids?" I had to call their mom and get her to come home so that I could leave.

I hired a lawyer. He received a bond. The bond was paid for by his boss. I will forever be grateful for that. He came home and there were rules... lots of rules. Little did I know that we would be in and out of court for a year. He took a plea bargain and plead guilty on an aggravated sexual assault charge, was put on the sex registry for life and went to the city jail for a 6 month sentence.

He got out in a little over 3 months. I had our son about a week later and before our son was 6 months old I received the second phone call that he was going back to jail. He had admitted to his probation officer that he had met a girl online, had an affair with her and then later thought she might be underage (16 years old).

He has since been in prison for almost 2 years and was sentenced to 4 years on a probation violation. He has admitted to cheating on me multiple times through out our relationship, before and after marriage.

This is my short story, and if you want to hear the long versions you'll have to come back!

-Brittani

p.s. This is not me trying to put him down or make him feel miserable. This is me sharing my story, my struggles with marriage, being married to a sex offender, going through a divorce, dating with kids... and more. I forgave him. But that does not mean I have to hold my tongue. That does not mean that there are not other people out there who need to hear our story.

To read more of my story go to "Reality Hit."

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  1. […] you haven’t read about the last few years of my life I encourage you to head over and read my first blog post. I haven’t had a great run with adulthood so far, but I know there is a reason for […]

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  2. I think you are very to share your story. I look forward to hearing more.

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