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The Move In.

In my previous post I talked about "5 Things They Don't Tell You About Moving In Together." I wanted to take a step further in today's post to tell you a more detailed account of things I did and have noticed about the days following the move in with my ex (almost) husband.

When we were dating and before we got married my ex (almost) husband was all about getting married after we graduated college and started a career. He was in school to become a physical therapist and it would have taken more than 5 years to complete all the schooling, etc. that he needed to start a career.

... then less than 6 months later we found out that I was pregnant with my now 3 year old... and he proposed. THIS was a red flag for my parents... why I did not listen? I don't know.

I honestly don't even remember them saying anything about it.

Other before we were married things I knew but never addressed... I knew he was a cheater. I found videos, images, text messages, etc. on his p…

Reality Hit

It was a Wednesday. He was working for a church member who owned a Snap-On truck. He had a great job with this man and they were great friends to us. They believed every word. . . that he had not done anything. That this was all a ploy to destroy his life and our life. I believed it too. And some days I still don't know what to believe.

I was at work, babysitting for a military family on the marine base about twenty minutes away from our apartment and about thirty from my parents home. His boss and our dear friend called me in a panic. I didn't get to it in time and he sent me a text that he needed to speak to me as soon as possible. Of course I was concerned. Why is his boss calling me? Did he get into some kind of trouble at work? Had someone robbed him on his truck?

... "The detectives just came and picked [husband's name] up..." I don't remember exactly what was said after that. I remember being completely speechless and tears rolling down my cheeks. I was holding our three month old daughter at the time... and had been married to this man for less than 2 months. Now the whole world was crumbling under my feet.

I had been told that there was no case. That nothing would come of this. That everything would be dropped before it reached the court. Was that all lies? ...

Later on I found out that his boss had been called by the detectives and was asked where my husband was. He had to have my husband meet him in a parking lot of a shopping center where the detectives then surrounded him and arrested him immediately.

My husband later told me that he received a phone call from the detective the Friday prior that he was "being charged." ....

That weekend had been a wonderful weekend. Full of laughter and love and in an instant everything turned dark and cold.

Had he known that being charged meant he was supposed to turn himself in would it have happened that way?

I can only imagine how our his boss felt. After all he had been in our wedding party and was a mentor and great friend to my husband and I. . . He had just turned my husband in.

He had no choice.

My husband would be in prison for a week before given a bond... his boss handed us 4000$ to bail him out. be continued.



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