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The Move In.

In my previous post I talked about "5 Things They Don't Tell You About Moving In Together." I wanted to take a step further in today's post to tell you a more detailed account of things I did and have noticed about the days following the move in with my ex (almost) husband.

When we were dating and before we got married my ex (almost) husband was all about getting married after we graduated college and started a career. He was in school to become a physical therapist and it would have taken more than 5 years to complete all the schooling, etc. that he needed to start a career.

... then less than 6 months later we found out that I was pregnant with my now 3 year old... and he proposed. THIS was a red flag for my parents... why I did not listen? I don't know.

I honestly don't even remember them saying anything about it.

Other before we were married things I knew but never addressed... I knew he was a cheater. I found videos, images, text messages, etc. on his p…

3 Signs He/She is Cheating


Do you ever wonder if your spouse is cheating on you? If you can trust what he or she is saying? Whether or not they are actually at work OR if they could be running late because they are seeing someone?

From the beginning we weren't very open with our phones. He didn't let me see his phone and I didn't let him see mine. It was only fair right?

He would keep a code on his phone... that is just how it was for the majority of our dating and married life. It was the norm for me. I didn't worry about it, because he wasn't ever really on his phone anyways. Or so I thought. Until his phone went off in the middle of the night.

...honestly I don't even remember what the text said, but it was from a random number. AND to my surprise she signed her name... It was in that moment I knew that something weird was going on.

Sign 1 that he/she is cheating.. A Locked Phone! If you cannot be open and honest about the people you are talking to, or the people that are attempting to talk to you then there could be an issue.

Did I say anything to him about it? No I didn't ... but believe me when I say, "Never again!" I know I have a voice now, and I need to stand up for myself when it comes to this issue.

Sign 2 is Late Nights at "Work." I never really thought anything of this, because he worked for a friend at the church, on a tool truck that was owned by the guy.... that WENT TO OUR CHURCH! But then one day out of the blue he happened to leave his tablet at home. Guess who happened to pick it up?

I mean after all the fuss with his phone (there was no fuss, because I never did say anything) I wanted to know where else and who else he was contacting... and come to find out he was Craigslist! Telling "potential partners" that he had a BIG tool Truck that they could get freaky on. Oh and the best emails yet were the ones where he was telling them that he was going on a business trip and would have a whole room to himself...

Did he ever actually follow through on these offers? I don't know...

BUT there were plenty of responses to the ads.

Sign 3 is Distance and Silence. See remember in one of my earlier posts I told you he was ALWAYS wanting to be intimate and I just wasn't really that into it? ... Well it got to a point where he would always be ANGRY at me for not having sex with him. And then we passed that and he just stopped trying.

It took a while, but I noticed that he was getting up early in the mornings (or maybe he was just always late for work) and taking WAAAY to long in the bathroom. Well he was having a little too much fun with unrealistic women on the internet... if you know what I mean. Then obviously he was also posting ads on Craigslist and I am sure on other websites that I still don't know about...



The point is. The little things you think are normal... could be a sign.

and yes I did eventually say something to him. Actually I blew up on him. I don't even remember most of that fight, because within a few days he was going back to jail again...

BUT don't worry I will make sure to catch you up on that later.

-Brittani

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