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The Move In.

In my previous post I talked about "5 Things They Don't Tell You About Moving In Together." I wanted to take a step further in today's post to tell you a more detailed account of things I did and have noticed about the days following the move in with my ex (almost) husband.

When we were dating and before we got married my ex (almost) husband was all about getting married after we graduated college and started a career. He was in school to become a physical therapist and it would have taken more than 5 years to complete all the schooling, etc. that he needed to start a career.

... then less than 6 months later we found out that I was pregnant with my now 3 year old... and he proposed. THIS was a red flag for my parents... why I did not listen? I don't know.

I honestly don't even remember them saying anything about it.

Other before we were married things I knew but never addressed... I knew he was a cheater. I found videos, images, text messages, etc. on his p…

God. Sex. & Marriage.

I told you in a previous post about the issues I had with sex during my marriage. I would like to elaborate further on that.

Everywhere we went and everyone we talked to was told about how I was never in the mood, how I would never give him any, how he was sexually frustrated, and so on.

It was so bad that he would be angry with me when I said no. The longer it went on the less and less interested I was. Even when I attempted to get in "the mood" he would turn me away by making inappropriate statements to friends about how I always made "excuses."

Can you say embarrassing? What do you say to your friends when they don't know the whole story? How do you handle feeling and looking like the bad guy when you know you aren't?

To further explain myself... I have no idea why I was never in the mood. Maybe it had something to do with finding texts and emails on his electronic devices. Or maybe it was having two babies back to back... who knows? BUT the constant nagging and gossiping about how I wasn't giving him any didn't make it any better.

So what does the Bible say about withholding sex from your spouse?

In 1 Corinthians 7:5 it says, " Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."

This means you should give your partner sex whenever they want it?

I don't believe that even for a second! However, I can agree that you should be having sex on a regular basis. Even if you have to schedule a time or two every week ... sometimes we are just too busy.

So no, don't deprive your spouse from sexual interaction. BUT don't allow them to cheat either!

In conclusion I would like to state that I learned three things from his constant state of sexual frustration... 1. If you are never in the mood then something isn't right in your relationship. 2. If he is cheating then you have nothing to be sorry about. AND 3. God says it is okay to seek divorce when adultery has been committed.




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