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The Move In.

In my previous post I talked about "5 Things They Don't Tell You About Moving In Together." I wanted to take a step further in today's post to tell you a more detailed account of things I did and have noticed about the days following the move in with my ex (almost) husband.

When we were dating and before we got married my ex (almost) husband was all about getting married after we graduated college and started a career. He was in school to become a physical therapist and it would have taken more than 5 years to complete all the schooling, etc. that he needed to start a career.

... then less than 6 months later we found out that I was pregnant with my now 3 year old... and he proposed. THIS was a red flag for my parents... why I did not listen? I don't know.

I honestly don't even remember them saying anything about it.

Other before we were married things I knew but never addressed... I knew he was a cheater. I found videos, images, text messages, etc. on his p…

I am Loyal...

I am the type of person that you can consider your BFF. The one who will keep your secrets and stand by your side through everything. I am loyal and that won't change easily.

However, when my loyalty is taken for granted or taken advantage of. . .
When I am used.. and abused... I will walk away.

See I am the type of person that believes that the majority of people are good. People don't use people for money, food, etc. They don't push the limit or hang onto you until they have sucked the life out of you completely.

"There comes a time in your life when you have to stop crossing oceans for people that won't even jump puddles for you." - Unknown

I can relate this quote to several scenarios in my life today. For instance, my ex husband... he used me. He lied to me and his family lied to me. To this day they are lying to me.
"I don't want you to file for child support, because as soon as I am out of here I will send you the money you need. But I won't sign the papers, because they say I don't have custody."

Okay? First of all... your a sex offender. Sex offenders don't just get physical and legal custody of their children. That is a battle you will have to fight with the court system another day.
Second of all... you expect me to trust you when you say that you will send me money, but you won't trust me when I say you will see your kids.

This is a two way street.

The second scenario this lovely quote can represent is my recent employment at a lovely little place in Downtown Charleston. While they loved me and I was amazing at everything I did for them... my "promotion" was being put off week after week. I was paying more for a sitter than I was actually paying and sticking with it only because I could see the end result would put us in a better place.
I was loyal. I was loyal because of the end goal. AND honestly I can see now that I was taken advantage of. I was held on to and given a few more hours one week, and an advance the next (that actually just put us deeper in the hole), and I was told weekly that they were working towards whatever they needed to get me to where I wanted to be. Yet I never did see any results.

I wanted that promotion more than anything. I wanted to work for the company. I loved the people. I felt accomplished. I felt happy to go to work everyday. BUT the longer it went on the more upset I became.

In the end... I was crossing oceans and they were only jumping puddles.



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