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The Move In.

In my previous post I talked about "5 Things They Don't Tell You About Moving In Together." I wanted to take a step further in today's post to tell you a more detailed account of things I did and have noticed about the days following the move in with my ex (almost) husband.

When we were dating and before we got married my ex (almost) husband was all about getting married after we graduated college and started a career. He was in school to become a physical therapist and it would have taken more than 5 years to complete all the schooling, etc. that he needed to start a career.

... then less than 6 months later we found out that I was pregnant with my now 3 year old... and he proposed. THIS was a red flag for my parents... why I did not listen? I don't know.

I honestly don't even remember them saying anything about it.

Other before we were married things I knew but never addressed... I knew he was a cheater. I found videos, images, text messages, etc. on his p…

In the Beginning...

I have been racking my brains trying to figure out what else I can tell you about my first marriage. There are SO many things that happened. Honestly.. the past few weeks I have skipped over a lot in my story posts.

There are so many LITTLE things I can tell you. SO many small instances... that may or may not be significant, but were STILL  a part of my story.
There were also things that no one knows about... or VERY few people know about.

So let's start from the beginning. Where and when did I meet him?

... online dating. It is a thing, and it is terrifying to me. Especially now.
My parents were always strict on me in school and as I got older. I ran into a lot of problems as a teen. I got into a lot of trouble and made bad decisions.

Anyways. There is a website called meetme and that is where I met him. Ironically it is also said to be where he met the last minor he cheated on me with (more on that later).
We chatted for a few days. Nothing weird. Just about ourselves. Our favorites, our hobbies, etc.

I was helping out at a drama place for kids on Wednesday mornings (I think). He met me there and watched me teach the kids and rehearse their play with them. Then we went to subway and ate lunch. We hit it off, and it was REALLY normal.

Not until after we got married, and all the weird allegations came out did I realize some things...

- he stated at one point that he thought he knew me in high school and when I told I reminded him I went to high school in SC he acted surprised. (this was 6 months after we started dating- for 6 months he thought that I was this other girl). I didn't find that weird until recently.

- he said things like "I don't normally do this. I normally just want to (excuse the language) have sex and move on to the next girl, but this time it was different." or "With you it was different."

- his mother the first time she laid eyes on me said, "did you check her ID? How old is she?" I found that funny up until recently... now I am starting to see the connections.

I still remember what we ate at subway that day. I ALWAYS get the same thing, a BLT with mayo and extra banana peppers. He had a personalized pepperoni pizza.
... I told people we met at subway. Sorry if you were one of them. I have a feeling you knew it wasn't completely the truth in the first place.

See the first time I met him it felt normal but as time went on I started noticing something was off.
I ask people and tell people now that he must of married me because I look(ed) like I was 16.
It is a joke, but still. . . in all honesty I can't help but wonder.

Anyways, this is my warning to you. Online dating isn't for the faint of heart. You need to know what you are doing. You need to know what to look for. I didn't see the weird things until it was too late. I was blinded.

I am not saying don't date online. I'm just saying take my advice and be careful, because I didn't take the advice when I should have and look where I am now.



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